Picking up from my last post, i have analyzed 2 of my questions and the 3rd remains "Do we blame women who fall for guys they clearly know has someone in their lives?"
I've heard a lot of girls advice their friends..... "At least he is not married", "Ehen! So because he's in love with her doesn't mean he can't fall for you", "They are just dating, you can still make him yours", "When you cook that efo riro and make his apartment spotless, he will know he has found wife material", "Please abeg, have you seen her? She's butt ugly, you're way more beautiful"..........
I pity all of you who listen to such statements, "Anu mi shey yin"! You have not found the man who loves his girlfriend or wife even though she can't go to the market, some can't even cook properly, or is it the one who loves his butt ugly wife or the one whose wife has no physical features what so ever, but he still adores her! Ladies this is not 1952, it's 2015. Not saying we haven't seen situations were a guy leaves the girl he's been with for 5 years for someone he met 6 months ago, it does happen but that doesn't mean because it happened to Kemi then it will happen to you or your friend Mary.
Understand and believe this ladies, what is yours will surely be yours. If he likes he should marry 50 women, he will still come back to you, however no one wants to wait till they are 70 to be with the love of their life, Lol. What you should do is pray to not marry the wrong person or not leave the right person for the wrong one! Most importantly, pray for wisdom to know your man/woman when you meet him/her, end of story. Another thing we need to realize is this, not everyone God created is meant to get married. If you can tell yourself that not every man/woman created is meant to birth children (i didn't say HAVE o, coz there's always adoption) then you better let the former sink into your head now.
So the question remains "who's to blame" Men or Women? Some women find themselves in situations of desperation, some have reached the point of giving zero fucks so they don't care if he has anyone in his life, they are just tired of waiting for Mr Right and at that point, any man who isn't married is a target (okay Target isn't such a good word to use, Lol). They usually feel like this because of pressure from their families or being surrounded by friends who are married and keep saying to them, you need to find your own man or you are not living the life of someone who is ready to get married or their families just constantly compare them to every married woman in the world. Dear friends and family, Advice is different from putting someone down!!!
Longer than i anticipated, Lol. Will finish this up tomorrow.
Love Lowla
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