Hey guys, apologies for not finishing this up sooner, work got in the way. Lol. Here is the 3rd and final part.
If you're just reading this, you might want to read the first 2 parts to get the full gist.
When people say "oh you don't look like you're ready to settle down", my question to them is "am I supposed to raise a plaque-card over my head or let everyone I come across know that I'm ready for marriage"? Please help me understand, am I to sit and not go out or am I to go for just lunch and dinner with my friends and no event/shows? Am I supposed to not work or am I supposed to be less of the woman I am because people tell me that men are intimidated by my success? I'm confused!
Again I ask, who is to blame? My response to that is "Everyone" around you, in some cases it just might be you! People have different problems and it arises from different situations so your case is definitely different from someone else's and it was triggered by something different. In some other cases, there is no problem at all, just sit and wait, your turn will come, don't let people complicate things for you. Personally I refuse to let people get to me, it's hard to deal with but I do deal with it. I've been told for over 5 years now that my job role and the fact that I'm independent pushes men away. Lola you're too much of a boss to make a man want to settle down with you. Lola you look intimidating, it scares men away. Lola you travel too much, a man wants his woman around him (Really? Why are you just saying that now that you know I just returned from from a months trip of work? When I didn't travel for over a year you didn't realize this o). Please tell me which one you people want because I am only one person. Am I to not work but sit and wait for a man to take care of me, buy me all I need, service my car and send allowance to those I need to send to every month? Because when that happens it will be a case of "she's with him for the money, can she not work for herself". What exactly do people want? What exactly do people want from you? Basically what I'm trying to say here is that you can never please people and you should not try to please people. Start with yourself first.
Who is to blame? The answer to this question as it concerns you is around you.
Happy hunting guys ️
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