How much do you love yourself? Seems like an easy question that should generally have a straight forward answer without thinking, the answer being "I Love myself more than anyone or anything". Yea, its easy to say this but i urge you to think about it for a second when next someone asks you that question or something remotely close because the truth is, a lot of us do not love ourselves as much as we think we do.
Many of us put other people first, and this is generally not a bad thing, it just depends on what aspect of life. Are you the type that puts your family before you in life? Are you the type that puts your friends before you in life? Or are you the type that puts any man or woman he or she likes before yourself in life? How well do you take care of yourself? Health wise, physically, even emotionally!
As a parent, it is mandatory to put your children and family first, you now live for them, everything about their lives matter and should come first. Some parents might disagree with me and say "You don't have children or a husband, what do you know". Well for now, i will continue to think this way, when i do get married and finally have children, i strongly believe i will put them first.
In the past, i can tell you that i put literally everyone in my life before me, this includes friends and in some cases, boyfriends i had back then (my ex still owes me money i borrowed him after we broke up sef. God dey, Lol). If i had money that i had put aside for certain things and someone (either my cousins, staff, or my older steps) called to say "Lola please i need money for this or that, i need your help and i will pay you back", i would run to their aid, willingly. My younger cousin said to me a little while back, "Lola you have plans to buy a new laptop, you're saving for a car, when last did you travel or go on a vacation, how much do you have to spare for yourself in your account", my response was "None". Then she continued, "it's time to put Lola first, the money you've been borrowing people, how many have paid back", i said "None" then she said "But you'll still borrow them if they come back and asked for more", i couldn't respond after she said that coz in a way, she was right. She then said, i know you love these people and i'm sure they are well aware that you do, however, you need to put yourself first, its time for Lola to come first in Lola's life, it's time for Lola to enjoy all she has been working hard for. After she spoke to me, i did exactly what she said, i put myself first, i've been doing that ever since and i am happier. Now I help people when i'm in the position to, bearing in mind that i am just one person and i have needs, most importantly i work hard for what i have, where i have reached in life and i will continue to work hard towards my future goals.
Bottom line of this post is, MAKE TIME FOR YOU! Work hard, Play harder. Travel when you can and acquire more knowledge in life. Surround yourself with positivity and people who will push you to be a better person in life, not those who only help you spend or those who just take take take and never give anything positive back in return. Live a healthy life, trust me its easy to ignore this part but how you treat your body today is the result you'll see tomorrow.
Buy yourself the things you want and work hard to live the life you dream of. Remeber, YOLO!!!! :-)
Love Lowla
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